Modern Love

    For 20 years, the Modern Love column has given New York Times readers a glimpse into the complicated love lives of real people. Since its start, the column has evolved into a TV show, three books and a podcast. Each week, host Anna Martin brings you stories and conversations about love in all its glorious permutations, dumb pitfalls and life-changing moments. New episodes every Wednesday. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Listen to this podcast in New York Times...

  • Finding the Magic, Just in Time

  • The Appeal of the Smaller Breasts: From ‘The Daily’

  • Your Worst Dates Ever: With Joel Kim Booster

  • Dating Apps Suck. A.I. Clones Are Making Them Even Weirder.

  • Three Powerful Lessons About Love (Encore)

  • Thanksgiving With My Wife and Girlfriend

  • He Saved Me. Now It Was My Turn to Save Him.

  • Bridget Everett Says a Best Friend Can Be Your Greatest Love

  • My Dad Is George Lopez. We Healed Our Relationship With a Sitcom.

  • One Last Conversation, With the Help of A.I.

  • Amelia Dimoldenberg Can Teach You How to Flirt

  • Andrew Garfield Wants to Crack Open Your Heart

  • Were We the ‘Fat Couple’?

  • Myha’la’s Relationship Advice? Get in a Fight.

  • Gillian Anderson Wants to Hear Your Sexiest Fantasies

  • Peter Gallagher’s Marriage Advice? Don’t Get Divorced.

  • Liza Colón-Zayas, of ‘The Bear,’ on Loving Someone Who’s in the Fight of Their Life

  • ¡Hola Papi!, Does My Grandmother Need to Know I’m Gay?

  • Emily Ratajkowski Can Take Care of Herself, but a Little Help Would Be Nice

  • Laufey, Gen Z’s Pop Jazz Icon, Sings for the Anxious Generation

  • Why John Magaro of ‘Past Lives’ Could Never Love a Picky Eater

  • Esther Perel on What the Other Woman Knows

  • The Second Best Way to Get Divorced, According to Maya Hawke

  • How to Be Real With Your Kids

  • Why Samin Nosrat Is Now ‘Fully YOLO’

  • Brittany Howard Sings Through the Pangs of New Love

  • Novelist Celeste Ng on the Big Power of Little Things

  • Three Powerful Lessons About Love

  • Modern Love at the Movies: Our Favorite Oscar-Worthy Love Stories

  • A Politics Reporter Walks Into a Singles Mixer

  • Author Read: Un-Marry Me!

  • Un-Marry Me!

  • I Married My Subway Crush

  • Author Read: I Married My Subway Crush

  • Author Read: Our 34-Year Age Gap Didn’t Matter, Until It Did

  • Our 34-Year Age Gap Didn’t Matter, Until It Did

  • Author Read: Two Boys on Bikes, Falling in Love

  • Two Boys on Bikes, Falling in Love

  • Author Read: He Cared About Me, So I Broke Up With Him

  • He Cared About Me, So I Broke Up With Him

  • Did I Fail as a Parent?

  • Author Read: My Sweaty Revenge

  • My Sweaty Revenge

  • I Wrote This Essay, but Then Changed My Mind

  • Author Read: What Does It Mean to Be a Kept Woman?

  • What Does It Mean to Be a Kept Woman?

  • Author Read: Don’t Hide in the Bathroom Stall

  • Don’t Hide in the Bathroom Stall

  • Author Read: Have You Ever Kept a Secret From Your Wife?

  • Have You Ever Kept a Secret From Your Wife?

  • I Needed David Schwimmer’s Help

  • Essay Read: I Had To Stop Asking Why

  • Essay Read: How I Lost the Fiancé But Won the Honeymoon

  • How I Lost the Fiancé But Won the Honeymoon

  • My Invisible Husband

  • The Day My Family Changed Forever

  • The Gift of Holiday Men

  • Sex on the Run? No, We Parked.

  • What I Got Wrong About My Parents’ Marriage

  • For a 30-Year-Old Virgin, It’s Now or Never

  • The Marriage Proposal That Wasn’t

  • We Dated for Three Years. He Forgot It All.

  • He Ghosted. I'm Grateful.

  • Dating Advice From Jay Shetty

  • The Healing Power of Love (Island)

  • How a $100 Bet Saved Our Relationship

  • Stop Looking for the Perfect Partner

  • I Imagine Him Here

  • Dominate Me, but Not Like That

  • Questions I Can’t Ask My Father

  • The Tricky Geometry of a Throuple

  • I Promised God It Was the Last Time

  • Your Weirdest Dates

  • A Bond Thicker Than Blood

  • No More Hiding

  • Encore: When Two Open Marriages Collide

  • Falling for Your Sperm Donor

  • What to Do With the Time We Get

  • The Internet Still Thinks I'm Pregnant

  • Not the Daughter She Wanted

  • Encore: A Lifetime of Good Loving

  • When the Music Stopped

  • How to Learn My Love Language

  • One Last Haircut

  • How to Feel Yourself

  • Could I Forgive Him One Last Time?

  • How to Find the One

  • The Shame Game

  • A Mother's Secret

  • ‘Do It, I Dare You.’

  • Left to Be Found

  • Only With Distance

  • A Younger Man

  • Marriage Classes at Guantánamo

  • Season Premiere: One Man's Trash

  • First Love Mixtape, Side B

  • A Couple Walks Into City Hall

  • Right Swipes, Big City

  • Confessions of a Late Bloomer

  • A Mother’s Wild, Extravagant Love

  • Beyond Girlfriend-Boyfriend

  • When You Think You Know Your Parents

  • Married to a Deal Breaker

  • The ‘Ham Sandwich’ Effect

  • First Love Mixtape

  • Loving Across Borders

  • The Upside of Our Parents' Divorce

  • When His Shorts Are Just Too Tight

  • When Two Open Marriages Collide

  • The Right to Fail at Marriage

  • Was It Me or Our Astrology?

  • Trapped in a Romance Scam

  • Meet Cute at Zero Years Old

  • She Left Me There

  • Why Do People Get Married?

  • What the Silence Said

  • ‘Desire Is Never the Mistake’

  • With the Help of Strangers

  • A Lifetime of Good Loving

  • Confronting Race on the First Date

  • No More Secrets

  • Dusty-Danger Dog

  • Devoted but Doomed

  • When Getting Old Never Happens

  • Season Premiere: Driveway Elegies

  • Welcome to the New Modern Love

  • Confronting Race, Religion and Her Heart | With Zawe Ashton

  • Why Can’t Men Say ‘I Love You’ to Each Other? | With Ncuti Gatwa

  • Race Wasn't An Issue To Him, Which Was An Issue To Me With Lorraine Toussaint | Encore

  • Researching Jenna, Discovering Myself | With Hasan Minhaj

  • The Language Of Love With Saoirse Ronan | Encore

  • How ‘Lolita’ Freed Me From My Own Humbert | With Jameela Jamil

  • Alone In A Pandemic

  • To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This | Encore

  • Years Ago, My Sister Vanished. I See Her Whenever I Want. | With Daisy Edgar-Jones

  • Sometimes It's Not You, Or The Math | With Laura Prepon

  • Your Stories of Love During The Pandemic: Part II

  • Modern Love Presents: Sugar Calling

  • Somewhere Inside, a Path to Empathy | With Daniel Radcliffe

  • Your Stories of Love During The Pandemic

  • How Bibliophiles Flirt | With Uzo Aduba

  • When Your Greatest Romance Is A Friendship | Encore

  • Modern Love Presents: Shipwrecked

  • Recognizing What They Had, 20 Years Too Late | With Gugu Mbatha-Raw

  • The Kindness, And Xanax, Of Strangers | With Lesley Manville

  • I Saw A Playhouse, My Daughter Saw A Jail | With Brian Cox

  • Just For Tonight, Pretend You Don't Know Me | With Nick Kroll

  • Tiny Love Stories For Valentine's Day

  • When Cupid Is A Prying Journalist | With Susan Kelechi Watson

  • Dedicated To Two Women | With Terry Crews

  • A Role I Was Born To Play | With Tan France

  • My Secret Left Me Unable To Help | With Jessalyn Gilsig

  • Take Me As I Am, Whoever I Am With Rebecca Hall | Encore

  • Need To Find Me? Ask My Ham Man. | With Jenny Slate

  • An Interlude Of Clarity With Judd Apatow | Encore

  • The Race Grows Sweeter With Mary Chapin Carpenter | Encore

  • Nursing A Wound With Jake Gyllenhaal | Encore

  • Are You My Husband? | With Renée Elise Goldsberry

  • Never Tell Our Business To Strangers | With Ruth Wilson

  • Who's Allowed To Hold Hands? | With Alicia Keys

  • Sharing A Cab, And My Toes With Greta Gerwig | Encore

  • Modern Love Presents: Kind World

  • Waiting For The Wall To Crumble | With Kelly McCreary

  • The Triangle's Sharpest Point | With Zawe Ashton

  • We'll Meet Again In Five Years | With Regina King

  • Words With (I Wish We Were More Than) Friends | With Ben Platt

  • He's Going Back To His Former Wife. Sort Of. | With Marisa Tomei

  • Rallying To Keep The Game Alive | Live At CitySpace

  • How 30 Blocks Became 30 Years | With Peter Sarsgaard

  • First I Met My Children, Then My Girlfriend. They’re Related. | With Kal Penn

  • Screens Between Us With Issa Rae | Encore

  • The Tallest Man I Ever Loved | With Andrew Rannells

  • Seeing The World Through My Wife's Eyes With David Oyelowo | Encore

  • My Platonic Romance On The Psych Ward | With Miriam Shor

  • Despite The Losses, So Much Gained | With Marsha Stephanie Blake

  • In A Charmed Life, A Road Less Traveled | With Nikolaj Coster-Waldau

  • The Night Girl Finds A Day Boy | With Logan Browning

  • Could We Try Again? | With Marcia Cross

  • He's Playing Our Song | With Amanda Seyfried

  • At What Age Is Love Enthralling? | With Jessica Walter

  • A Tattoo For The Living | With Zosia Mamet

  • An Empty Heart | With Zoe Lister-Jones | Encore

  • An Affection Multiplier | With Zachary Quinto

  • Platonic, Until Death Do Us Part | With John Cameron Mitchell

  • Encore | The Doorman With Cecily Strong

  • Misery Loves Fried Chicken | With William Jackson Harper

  • What Luck Means Now | With Jacki Weaver

  • We Survived The Storm | With Ginnifer Goodwin

  • The Wisdom Of The Moving Man | With Lake Bell

  • Agreeing To Accept And Move On | With Sarah Goldberg

  • Love Means Never Having To Say ... Anything | With Pedro Pascal

  • Talking to My Fiancé About My New Girlfriend | With DeWanda Wise

  • Race Wasn't An Issue To Him, Which Was An Issue To Me | With Lorraine Toussaint

  • Encore | Sharing The Shame With Anna Chlumsky

  • Ah, To Be Old, Male, And Single | With Natasha Lyonne

  • Comfort, If Not A Cure | With Nazanin Boniadi

  • Another Voice Had Come Between Us | With Catherine O'Hara

  • Refreshing A Mother's Memory With Love | With Zoe Saldana

  • Playing Role Reversal With My Therapist | With Isabelle Huppert

  • Security In A Bright Yellow Suitcase | With Christina Hendricks

  • Your Dog Has Seen Me Naked | With William Jackson Harper

  • Part II: My Wife Said You May Want to Marry Me | With André Holland

  • Part I: You May Want to Marry My Husband

  • Oscars Playlist

  • Rallying To Keep The Game Alive | With Connie Nielsen

  • A Kiss Deferred | With Joanna Kulig

  • What The Sea Took Away | With Carmen Ejogo

  • Maternal Wisdom (5 Pounds' Worth) | With Gillian Anderson

  • Modern Love Holiday Playlist

  • I Will Be Your Mother Figure | Encore

  • The Shirt Stays On | With Finn Wittrock

  • A Young Man's Game | With Stanley Tucci

  • On A Serpentine Road | With Michelle Rodriguez

  • A Forgotten Prayer, Answered | With Mira Sorvino

  • Maddy Just Might Work | Encore

  • How To Break Up With A 2-Year-Old | With Busy Philipps

  • An Ancient Coda To My 21st-Century Divorce | With Amy Landecker

  • In The Waiting Room Of Estranged Spouses | Encore

  • I Was Hardly a Perfect Fit | With John C. Reilly

  • The Plain, Unmarked Box Arrived | With Kristen Bell

  • Escaping From A Dire Diagnosis On Match.com | With Rita Wilson

  • A Life Plan For Two | With Olivia Munn

  • Bonus: 81 Minutes

  • Making A Judgment On Love | With Giancarlo Esposito

  • Learning Humanity From Dogs | With Ethan Hawke

  • Modern Love Playlist: In Sickness And In Health

  • Modern Love Playlist: Secrets

  • The Secret To Marriage | With Sandra Oh

  • Bonus: Test of Time

  • Single Woman Seeking Manwich | With Awkwafina

  • When Mothers Bully Back | With Ellie Kemper

  • GPS For My Lost Identity | With Diane Guerrero

  • Superheroes, Just for Each Other | With Mike Colter

  • A Hiker’s Guide to Healing | With Cameron Esposito

  • Catfishing Strangers To Find Myself | With Cory Michael Smith

  • My Back-Seat View Of A Great Romance | With Chloë Grace Moretz

  • Encore | Between The Bars

  • The Hunter-Gatherer, Parking Division | With Jason Alexander

  • Finding My Own Rescuer | With Mandy Moore

  • A Fear Stripped Bare | With Sarah Shahi

  • Love Stories In 13 Words | Modern Love Bonus Episode

  • Modern Love Encore | Marry A Man Who Loves His Mother

  • The Language Of Love | With Saoirse Ronan

  • A Measure of Desire | With Kim Dickens

  • When Eve And Eve Bit The Apple | With Rachel Weisz

  • Signs, Wonders, and Fates Fulfilled | With Linda Cardellini

  • Boy, What A Fabulous Baker | With Abbi Jacobson

  • A Cup From The Fountain Of Youth | With Mel Rodriguez

  • A Brother As Significant As Any Other | With Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman

  • R We D8ting? | With Krysten Ritter

  • Modern Love Encore: The Boy Who Makes Waves

  • The Accidental Older Woman | With Rosie Perez

  • When A Couch Is More Than A Couch | With Kate Winslet

  • A Fighting Chance | With Bobby Cannavale

  • From He To She In First Grade | With Jennifer Beals

  • The Accident No One Talked About | With Uma Thurman

  • Overfed On A Mother's Affection | With Kumail Nanjiani and Emily Gordon

  • Missing A Father I Hardly Knew | With Willem Dafoe

  • Modern Love 100: Your Stories

  • A Dose Of Empathy | With Andrea Martin

  • In My Fantasy, I Caught Up To Reality | With Richard Jenkins

  • Yes, We Do. Even At Our Age. | With Lois Smith

  • In The New Year, More Cuddling | With Margarita Levieva

  • Sharing A Cab, And My Toes | With Greta Gerwig

  • How The 'Dining Dead' Got Talking Again | With Kristin Scott Thomas

  • Was I On A Date Or Baby-Sitting? | With Sasheer Zamata

  • A Boyfriend Too Good To Be True | With Caitriona Balfe

  • Modern Love Encore: 'A Heart Of Gold'

  • We Didn't Have A Plan, But The Baby Did | With Paul Sun-Hyung Lee

  • Urgent Messages Go Unanswered | With Andrew Rannells

  • A Family Fairytale, Twice Told | With Julia Stiles

  • Cropped Out Of My Own Fantasy | With Kirsten Vangsness

  • My Body Doesn't Belong To You | With Cleopatra Coleman

  • Let's Not Pretend | With Kimberly Hébert Gregory

  • My Husband Is Now My Wife | With Ann Dowd

  • Nursing A Wound | With Jake Gyllenhaal

  • When Your Greatest Romance Is A Friendship | With Ali Fazal

  • One Bouquet Of Fleeting Beauty | With Kerry Bishé

  • Emmy Edition, 2017

  • Promises That Can Bend | With Peter Gallagher

  • No Bounds, Or Lanes | With Kyra Sedgwick

  • Learning To Embrace Sexuality's Gray Areas | With Nico Tortorella

  • Dear Dad, We've Been Gay Forever | With Cynthia Nixon

  • A Lost Child, But Not Mine | With Betty Gilpin

  • Flowergate | With June Diane Raphael

  • Manic Pixie Dream Girl | With Alex Karpovsky

  • I Need To Woman Up | With Cynthia Addai-Robinson

  • An Empty Heart | With Zoe Lister-Jones

  • Take My Son To Jail | With Jayne Atkinson

  • Modern Love Encore: Wedding Season

  • About That Rustle In The Bushes | With Danielle Brooks

  • Before The Web | With Griffin Dunne

  • Finding Marriage, Losing Self | With Taylor Schilling

  • Standing By Your Man | With Chris Messina

  • Marry My Husband | With Debra Winger

  • A Slow Fade To Black | With Minnie Driver

  • Just Don't Call Me Mom | With Gideon Glick

  • Sharing The Shame | With Anna Chlumsky

  • A Prince Charming For The Prom | With Tituss Burgess

  • It Took A Villain | With Melanie Lynskey

  • In A Small Bag | With Harry Lennix

  • A Child Of Two Worlds | With Mireille Enos

  • I Will Be Your Mother Figure | With Laura Dern

  • Death Bear Will See You Now | With Ry Russo-Young

  • The End Of Small Talk | With Paul Rust

  • Elvis And My Husband Have Left The Building | With Malin Akerman

  • Single, Female, Mormon, Alone | With Justina Machado

  • Live From The Wilbur Theater (Part Two) | With Emmy Rossum

  • Live From The Wilbur Theater (Part One) | With Brian Tyree Henry and Alysia Reiner

  • Modern Love: The Podcast Valentine's Special

  • Seeing The World Through My Wife's Eyes | With David Oyelowo

  • On The Precipice, Wings Spread | With Megan Hilty

  • The Boy Who Makes Waves | With Mykelti Williamson

  • Groomzilla | With John Cho

  • A Family That Takes 'No' For An Answer | With Darby Stanchfield

  • Taking A Break For Friendship | With Sela Ward

  • Modern Love Encore: 'A Millennial's Guide To Kissing'

  • Beware Of Big Boxes | With Pamela Adlon

  • Two Decembers | With Haydn Gwynne

  • Modern Love Encore: 'Friends Without Benefits'

  • DJ's Homeless Mommy | With Dan Savage

  • Fractured Beauty | With Molly Ringwald

  • Out Of The Darkness | With Mark Duplass

  • A Heart Of Gold | With Ruth Negga

  • Screens Between Us | With Issa Rae

  • Modern Love Live at Town Hall

  • Take Me As I Am, Whoever I Am | With Rebecca Hall

  • Marry A Man Who Loves His Mother | With Constance Wu

  • A Path To Fatherhood | With Dash Mihok

  • The Wedding Toast | With Kathryn Hahn

  • Modern Love Bonus Episode: Emmy Edition

  • Revenge of the Friend | With Kristin Chenoweth

  • Kept Together By The Bars Between Us | With Cherry Jones

  • Modern Love Bonus Episode: Near-Death Experiences

  • What The Psychic Knew | With Angela Bassett

  • My First Son, A Pure Memory | With Sterling K. Brown

  • A Prince Charming For The Prom | With Tituss Burgess

  • The Race Grows Sweeter | With Mary-Chapin Carpenter

  • To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This | With Gillian Jacobs

  • Three Mothers, One Bond | With Gaby Hoffmann

  • Just Friends? | With Tony Hale

  • Live Without Me | With Catherine Keener

  • One Last Swirl | With Jason Alexander

  • Estranged Spouses | With Lance Reddick

  • Live From New York | With Michaela Watkins, Amirah Vann and Lauren Molina

  • Fighting Words | With Alysia Reiner

  • The Doorman | With Cecily Strong

  • The Wait | Modern Love Bonus Episode

  • Coming Out As A Modern Family | With Maria Bello

  • How I Got To Here | With Katie Couric

  • Friends Without Benefits | With Taissa Farmiga

  • A Heart Outrun | With Colin Farrell

  • A Second Embrace | With Cheryl Strayed

  • I See My Superhero | With Sarah Silverman

  • Between The Bars | With Joshua Jackson

  • My First Lesson In Motherhood | With Connie Britton

  • Maddy Just Might Work | With Jennifer Finney Boylan

  • Broken, Not Bound | With America Ferrera

  • Mom/Not Mom/Aunt | With Jesse Tyler Ferguson

  • Where It All Started | Modern Love Bonus Episode

  • A Millennial's Guide To Kissing | With Emmy Rossum

  • Seesawing Libidos | With Stephen Bogardus

  • Leaps of Faith | Modern Love Bonus Episode

  • A Faithful Leap | With Amber Tamblyn

  • In Darkness And In Light | With Patina Miller

  • Magically Interrupted | With Michael Shannon

  • A 'Modern Love' Audio Valentine

  • 'The Plunge' | With Dakota Fanning

  • 'An Interlude Of Clarity' | With Judd Apatow

  • Not So Simple Math | With Sarah Paulson

  • One Last Swirl | With Jason Alexander

  • Missed Connection | With Lauren Molina

  • Introducing 'Modern Love: The Podcast'

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